What Our Sunday School Intends to do about Marriage

10703600_313269798855556_3788653739346013651_nOur Sunday school and small group met this morning to discuss what we could do as a group of committed Christ-followers concerning marriage in light of the SCOTUS decision. We confess that we are young and do not possess all the answers to the questions of our generation or the generations that precede us. Yet, here are some ideas we had and intend to faithfully live out within our sphere of influence.

  • Emphasize biblical viewpoints concerning sexual ethics. We ought to always be faithful to God’s word concerning sexual ethics. To confess Christ as Lord is to admit the Lord’s personal rights to absolute supremacy in the universe, the church, and our individual lives (Acts 10:36; Rom. 10:12, 14:8; 1 Cor. 8:6; Jas. 4:15).
  • Emphasize what we are for, not just what we are against. We are for whatever enraptures and enhances image-bearers. We are for the beauty of a man loving his wife as Christ loved the Church and for a woman joyfully submitting in reverence to his headship. We are for young men and women courting each other in holy and happy ways sharing inside jokes and spending quality time that echoes into eternity creating joyful noises in the midst of the angels. We are for singles wholeheartedly and profoundly magnifying the worth of Jesus while they’re on mission for the kingdom. We are for adoption which vividly pictures the gracious acts of God in the Gospel wherein he takes children not naturally his and brings them into the fellowship of his joy. We are for those sanctified moments of grace where everything is as it should be and the pleasure of intimacy is not bought at the price of dysfunction.
  • Know our views. The truth is not served by ignorance. An ignorant Christian is a travesty in light of all the access we have to Bible, theology, and philosophy helps.
  • Lead by example. The Supreme Court of the United States has given us a wonderful opportunity. It was true before Friday and it is true today that the mere existence of godly marriages is an ornament for the Gospel. We showcase the relationship between Christ and His bride when we love each other well.
  • Recognize we are in the majority. Many within American Christianity are capitulating and caving on the issue of so-called same sex marriage. We won’t. We are surrounded by a great cloud of witnesses (Heb. 11). Also, the vast majority of Christians worldwide (around 2 billion) support the traditional viewpoint and have done so since the beginning. The American Church is but a drop in a bucket.
  • Don’t lax our views. If you marry the spirit in your age, you’ll be a widow in the next. Francis Schaeffer once noted, “Truth always carries with it confrontation. Truth demands confrontation; loving confrontation nevertheless. If our reflex action is always accommodation regardless of the centrality of the truth involved, there is something wrong.”
  • Preach the Gospel. Use every conversation about marriage equality to express our view of marriage (Eph. 5:22-33) which requires us to be filled with the Spirit (Eph. 5:18). Make use of current events to explain the most important event- Calvary.
  • Possess convictional kindness. We need to be winsome and happy as we refuse to move an inch while loving our neighbors well. Love does not rejoice at wrongdoing but with the truth. “The truth that can serve God as the mightiest of his archangels is robed only in love, her weighty limbs unfettered by needless weight, calm-browed, her eyes terrible with beholding God.” We can neither afford to be loveless in our truth nor truthless in our love. There’s a right way to tell someone they’re wrong and there’s a wrong way to tell someone they’re right. We are both accountable to God for what we say and also how we say it. Bind the fetters of the Gospel with love.
  • Support each other. Someone asked recently if I could name ten people who prayed for me daily. Why don’t we do that for each other? Pray for each other’s marriages. Invest time and energy into each other. Be good friends which will strengthen our marriages.
  • Keep the conversation going. Nine unelected judges do not have the right to stop the democratic process. Until we are forcibly placed outside of the public sphere, we will kindly keep advocating our views.
  • Update our language. SCOTUS did not redefine marriage because it does not have the power or authority to do so. Marriage is a prepolitical reality that the state recognizes or disavows. Government does not create marriage. God does.
  • Avoid discouragement. As long as Jesus is alive and on the throne, there is hope. We’ve been called to be exiles from the beginning (Heb. 11:13; 1 Pet. 2:11). Nothing has changed.
  • Pray and fast. We need a fresh empowerment by God’s Spirit. We need Him to move. We need boldness and courage. We need words to speak and patience to love. How could we do something other than pray and fast?
  • Be a hospital for the broken. The sexual revolution will have causalities. It is time to minister to a lost and broken world much like Christ did in his sojourn in this world. Francis Schaeffer again dropped some truth when he said, “Christian Community is the final apologetic of the Gospel.” The Gospel is not only to be protected but enjoyed together in a community of faith. There’s healing among us.
  • Trust God’s sovereignty. We don’t mind being on the “wrong” side of history because we agree with C.S. Lewis who said, “History is a story written by the finger of God.” God knows what He is doing and we trust Him.

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